Stuffing Anger

By Kathy Garber

Passive behavior is the complete opposite of aggressive behavior. Allowing yourself to have passive behavior means that you let things happen to you without making any effort to stop or change them. You go along with the crowd so that you don’t look bad or make yourself out to be the bad guy. Passive behavior means avoiding conflict at all cost.

What does being passive have to do with your anger? When you continually put the rights of others ahead of your own, you diminish your self worth because your own needs and wants will never be met. You feel taken advantage of and you allow your anger to build up on the inside instead of communicating your thoughts and feelings assertively to others.

On the outside you look good, but on the inside you are feeling helpless and angry because your needs remain unrecognized. If your needs are never met, you begin to resent others around you for not knowing what you need and want. How could they possibly know you are feeling badly inside if you don’t communicate your needs and desires? Looking like the good guy on the outside all the time will not serve you well on the inside.

You don’t have to stay quiet and hope that your feelings will go away. You can learn to communicate your needs and wants assertively at AngerManagementOnline.com We can teach you how to express your feelings in a productive way so that you still look like the good guy AND feel like a good guy on the inside.